Life & Co. 101
Headline: Domestic violence
Domestic violence, a phrase we hear all too often. But what is domestic violence? What does it truly mean to be in an abusive relationship? Unfortunately domestic violence takes on many meanings, and has become a way of life for far too many people. Today we will dive in and explore the many faucets of healthy vs. unhealthy relationships and hopefully, shed some light on this devastating cause of suffering.
Domestic violence is defined as violent or aggressive behaviour within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner. So how do relationships escalate to this point of no return, how does a partner physically attack the person they claim to love? Often the answer to these questions forms this conclusion, control. Many abusers feel the need to control and dominate their partner, using fear, manipulation, and threats to gain the outcome they desire. Unfortunately it doesn’t stop there; emotional abuse, sexual abuse, isolation, extreme jealousy, coercion, and blame are all tactics the abuser will use to allow for their warped agenda to prevail. So why are some individuals prone to this behaviour?
What causes an abuser? At times, domestic violence can be a vicious cycle where children grow up seeing the behaviour, monkey see monkey do. Other times, the abuser will feel inferior to their partner due to education, or socio-economic backgrounds. The abuser may also suffer from extreme lack of emotional regulation or mental health issues. Either way, these are not justifications. At what point do these individuals need to step up and address the issues they are facing?
So what does a healthy relationship look like?
Expressing feelings and thoughts without fear of negative repercussions
Support and encouragement to pursue each other’s passions
Space when needed
Do these signs ring true for your relationship?
That said, if you or someone you know is involved in an unsafe, unhealthy relationship please do not be afraid to reach out for help. You are never alone in this battle, and there are many resources available. No person is deserving of abuse, and you are worth it!
Life & Co.- 403-506-2887
Central Alberta Women’s Outreach- 403-347-2480
Alberta Abuse Help Line- 1-855-443-5722